We all know once we become mothers the superwoman cape never comes off. There is a list never ending of things needed to get done and then there is always more. Don’t forget to make yourself look good too! Right? Where and how are we supposed to find any balance?! Well, there will never be perfect balance as mother, just more organized chaos that feels balanced. If you do have perfect balance, PLEASE tell the rest of us your secrets because you are a unicorn. Yes, a motha’ flippin mom unicorn! For the rest of you wonder women looking to find a little more feeling of balance in your life I have a few tips for you below.
You are the Queen Bee in your Hive!
Don’t forget this, EVER! When you are raising a bee hive, the hive will act in accordance to the queen bee. If she is an aggressive bee, the hive will be more aggressive. If she is a calm and strong bee, the hive will act accordingly. The queen bee is the heart and soul of the honey bee colony. She is the reason for nearly everything the rest of the colony does. The queen is the only bee without which the rest of the colony cannot survive. Kids are very in tune with the energy we are putting out. They can tell when you are just having one of “those days” and seem to act even more insane than normal. Am I right? Or when you’re sick and they just need mom even more than any other day. I know, maybe not what you want to hear exactly, but we have to remember we are the queen bee of our colony. Everything goes to how we act and react. Sometimes I have to check myself before I wreck myself (yes it’s a Due Date quote). We are the thermostat not the thermometer of our homes. Thermostats control the temp and thermometers match the temp. Just like the Queen bee controls here hive, she sets the tone and we need to make sure we are setting a good tone in our home. Not always easy every day (I know) but as superwomen we gotta watch our own backs! Our kids can be insane let’s be real, it is so easy to fall into the “keeping up with them” role instead of setting the pace, but once you get the pace, your day can go so much smoother and balanced.
Take “me” time each day
Easier said than done, again I know! Taking me time each day doesn’t mean I am saying have some spa time each day. Make sure no matter how crazy it is, you do something for yourself each day. It fuels us and helps recharge those low running batteries we live on. Something simple like a face mask, get outside and go for a walk, read a chapter in that book you’ve been wanting to read, whatever pleases you, take a little slice of your day out and indulge! There are days my me time comes at 11 p.m. and I may be exhausted and want to go to bed, but I make sure and get a read, workout, something I enjoy doing before I go to bed. Michael usually wakes back up at midnight anyways so I usually have a little window at night to do what I need to…usually. Your me time could simply be your morning routine and have a little fun throwing some makeup on by putting your favorite jams on. Get your day going right! Whatever you decide, do it daily. YOU NEED IT!
Do one thing at a time
Our lists NEVER end, don’t they? You have way too much STUFF you want to get done and no time to do it. Focus on the task in front of you. So many days I am trying to multi-task by half playing with Michael and half attempting to get work done…neither end up being successful because I am not giving my 100 to either. Michael always wins btw, you can’t say no to that “come play with me mom” look. Ahh! If you have a pile of chores to get done first go read Goal Setting For Mom Made Simple then start implementing what I go over about chores and tasks. Talk about a GAME CHANGER! Focus on one at a time. The great thing about most tasks is they USUALLY don’t take a ton of time. My number one priority is Michael. If there is ever a day I have a ton to get done and he is being extra needy, I make sure to spoil him with affection, strap him onto my hip and get stuff done. He loves “helping” me with the dishes. By helping I mean touch and hit all the pots and pans then look back at me for approval lol. But I get it done. One dish at a time.
Don’t be a worry wart!
What benefits do you get from worrying? You get wrinkles, tension, and nothing positive accomplished. That’s what. I know I know easier said than done. We are parents, we worry constantly! I have to remind myself when I start to fret about small things to breath and know worrying can’t fix anything. Also as a mom I need remain calm and stay strong for Michael. Like being a queen bee, he can sense when I am tense and when I am calm. Next time you start to worry take 5 big deep breaths in from your nose and exhale through your mouth. For a little extra calming, close your eyes while breathing and focus on your breath. Say a little prayer and know everything will probably be alright and enjoy the moment you are in to the best of your ability. I read a great article about the mishap in Hawaii and a moms reaction to it. Recently if you didn’t hear, someone hit the wrong button about a missile hitting Hawaii and it was not a test. Could you even imagine getting that alert on your phone?! What would you do in that situation with your littles? Would you be a worry wart or knowing you are all going to die would you enjoy those last few moments with the ones you love? Well this momma did just that. In shock she sat there and took in how beautiful it was to watch her littles play so innocently. She gave them kisses and cuddled them while she silently cried knowing they would all soon be dead. She enjoyed those moments. Don’t worry. Be happy.
These are some ways I stay balanced through my days. Each day is completely different from the last. Michael is growing non-stop and each time he wakes up it is like he learned a new function of his body. Right now he has learned to pull himself up and is trying to walk a little! AHHH my baby is growing so fast! He is only 7 months old! Staying balanced helps me enjoy these little moments and silly little things Michael does that make it all worth while. So sista, check yourself before ya wreck yourself. As always beautiful, cheers!