Woohoo! Is it such a wonderful time of year or what?! In SoCal the weather has been absolutely beautiful! I know around the country it seems to still be winter…but sorry not sorry. Maybe that’s why California is so expensive? We are really just paying for the weather… I’ll take it! There’s one way to treat yourself, move to Southern California lol. Now who else is ready for the beach?!
Personally, I have no problem accepting “mommy time”. There is no problem what so ever with Kevin telling me to go enjoy myself and he will watch Michael. I fully accept every time with open arms and a ton of gratitude! The hardest part about taking action on “mommy time” is leaving the cutest baby on Earth. Seriously though, he already just runs (crawls) to my legs and doesn’t let go when I am home. Do you have ANY idea how hard that is to leave!? Waahhhhh, omg I want to cry every time I leave the house! It isn’t easy, and I doubt it will ever get easier. I’m sure you know how I feel, don’t you? Maybe you also suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out). I have a serious FOMO problem. Not just with leaving Michael, but with life in general lol. Maybe that’s how I got sucked into this non-refundable trip to Cancun we are going on. I didn’t look at the details and the guy gave me a “sweet deal”.
HA! I seriously belong to the #1 travel club in the world and could’ve booked a way better trip for ½ the cost. Well, I actually did that. We rebooked our trip for our anniversary and went to Dominican Republic instead… this was 2 years ago almost. And I have rescheduled the non-refundable trip twice. Ok… sorry ya’ll rant over! Point being FOMO is a serious reason why I hate leaving Michael. I am so nervous some amazing milestone is going to happen while I am not there and fully regret my decision to simply go to the grocery store the rest of my life. NEVER AGAIN will I go to the store alone! …JK please let me wander aimlessly through target for 2 hours. Just please.
Life ain’t easy being a mom. It’s harder than a motha! No joke there 😉. Just getting time to pee alone is a serious accomplishment daily. We gotta change that though! Not the peeing alone, that is in the tiny print of motherhood manual, duh. I’m talking about treating ourselves to make mommin’ a little easier and help our sanity stay in tack! Here are a few SIMPLE and DOABLE ways to treat yourself as a mother without the guilt, or the FOMO.
The missing my baby will never go away, just being real lol. Shout out to my mom, I love and miss you! Not only is taking time for yourself important it is vital for you to function. Yes, I know it is impossible for you to ever get 5 minutes. A mentor of mine always says excuses sound best to those that create them. You can keep telling yourself you don’t have 5 minutes, or you can wake up 5 minutes earlier and solve your problem. It is a crazy concept… I know. When I started waking up earlier and getting a workout in before anyone else woke up. I felt AMAZING! I started having more energy, I was wanting to go more places and explore new areas with Michael. I wanted to do more for my family, it was great! Mind you I was waking up at 4:30 a.m. and Michael isn’t a big napper (or wasn’t at the time) and he went to bed around 9 p.m. After he went to bed I then did anything else I didn’t finish in the morning. I was happier. I was giving myself life again. Self-care has that power.
I’ve been there when you really just want to take a bubble bath in the middle of the day, heck to just get a shower in would be glorious, right?! Duty calls during the day and those showers don’t come when you want them and usually never last as long as you desire.
Start waking up a little earlier than everyone else and do something nice for yourself. Read a book, watch a show, get a workout in, go for a stroll, do something you loved to do before all the hats of mom were placed on your head. You do you boo-boo! It will not be easy at first setting that alarm earlier than a pleasant hour, but it is SO WORTH IT! You want to be the best version of yourself to your kids, don’t you?! Get your sexy mom butt up and start doing YOU in the morning. Try this out for 2 weeks and let me know what a difference it has made! For me I love to workout and I get my workouts in the mornings. I love to go as hard as I can in the gym and I don’t like to be rushed. I know if I wake up early and go get it done, I can do as I please without anyone interrupting my jams.
Buy yourself something nice once a month! TREAT YOURSELF! This tip is a big one! How often do we always skip out on the cute earrings or don’t buy the fun spa day because well, this one needs diapers and the other one is wanting to go to college already. Right? We convince ourselves more often than not to put back a treat we want so we can buy something for our kids instead. Not gonna lie I totally bought a new bra today while shopping for Michael because hey, it was on sale and momma needs support! Lol. Actually I found a target gift card in my purse so I justified it to myself. 😉 Now I am not saying to go crazy here, I am saying to buy yourself (or make your S/O buy you something) that is so extra than your norm. Sure, a lavish vacation once a month to Bora Bora is SO in the budget right? Please say yes! Please say yes! Please say yes! If you are like me and the answer was no to Bora Bora,
and you have no idea what you could splurge on monthly. Buy yourself some dang popcorn and pull up your feet at the movies. Or you could spend the same amount and get a monthly mom surprise gift delivered to your door. Say what? I get presents delivered to my door once a month?! YES PLEASE! It’s like Christmas every month just for you. And your gift was made by a mom (cough cough me 😊) for a mom, you. Each month isn’t the same type of gift either. You can only have so many samples and types of eyeshadow before you get bored and want something new, right? Same with athletic clothes. 
Don’t get my wrong I love clothes but meh. I love trying new stuff I wouldn’t normally have, or things I couldn’t find in a marketed storefront. New stuff sounds way more exciting doesn’t it! Now I will be going into details later this week about the fabulous gift delivered to your door so stay tuned on that. Right now though, once you are done reading this post head over and reserve a very special Mother’s Day gift for yourself! There are a limited number and OMG, you are going to fall over and swoon over this gift!!
If you are also a person who suffers from FOMO such as myself (it really isn’t a bad thing you get to experience so much more lol) you can rest at ease momma. Most of our babies and children’s firsts will happen when momma is around or both parents are present. It has been proven in multiple case studies and honestly, I believe it. When I am gone I get the cutest snaps ever from Kevin and they fill my heart to the brim.
I believe most of our kids will have us right by their side to take their first step and say their first word. So, take a sigh of relief and book that much needed bubble bath in the middle of the day (wishful dreaming). Nah do it at night after they go down and reflect on how amazing of a day it was to be able to cater to your child/ren one more day. Whether you stay at home full time or when you get home from work. Our kids are wonderful, and we get to steward them through their journey of life. What a blessing we have! Remember momma, start waking up earlier. Treat yourself once a month. Go get you a special Mother’s Day gift for yourself and release your fear of missing out. As always beautiful, cheers!